Character vs Reputation vs Perception

Last week one of my friends posted his friday night experience on facebook. He went to a pub and approached a girl who said he was ugly and short. He was so devastated that he posted this on facebook about how he is such a nice guy and how he was deeply hurt by her words. How not being Brad Pitt is his fault. My advice for him

Firstly, you should not use facebook when you are drunk.

Secondly, the girl is right in expressing what she thinks.she has just met you and can only judge you by what she sees.So ignore her words and move on to the next girl.

Thirdly, the timing was wrong. You approached her @ 9 pm, may be if was a couple of hours later you would had a better chance.

Character is what you are when there is no one is around. Reputation is what people think of you based on what you have done. Perception is what people think of you without knowing you. Speaking of character can't stop thinking about two legends whom i admire the way they manage their professional and personal life. I had the privilege to see both of them live in action.

Sachin Tendulkar true character @ MCG 2012 which may be his last game at MCG

The second person is Roger Federer taken @ Aus Open 2011

Building a character takes ages, reputation some considerable time and perception is the quickest. The only thing in common among these is that all of them can be lost in the same duration very quickly.

However it is easier said than done. We give a lot of importance to perception trying to impress people at first sight.You have to do a lot of homework to get it right. On the other hand to reject someone is easy often you just need one reason and sometimes you dont need one either. We dont think twice before rejecting someone but when the same happens to us it hurts a bit.

Not sure why am thinking so much today. May be it is just my hunger, ordered veg pizza and pasta and the guy delivered chicken pizza and pasta. Eagerly waiting for the actual order.